Marriage Bible Verses
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If you are interested in marriage Bible verses it's probably for one of a few reasons:
- you would like to know how God feels about marriage?
- you would like to enhance your marriage and are seeking answers in the Bible
- you are experiencing troubles in your marriage and are seeking answers in the Bible
I would like to start off by saying that this Hub about marriage Bible verses is not meant to condemn you, but rather convict you. I myself have been filled with a spirit of conviction in regards to my own marriage. It's always been easiest for me to point the finger at others and blame them for problems in our relationships. But, the other day, when I was thinking about it, God showed me that while I am so busy pointing my finger at others, 3 are pointing right back at me!
Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman before God, at least that's the way it was intended. But, so often, we don't realize how much work really needs to go into making a marriage successful.
Even if you are madly in love with your spouse and would never want to hurt them, the reality is that you often hurt the ones you love and most times don't even realize it. If you are experiencing troubles in your marriage (even if you aren't, this is a good thing to do anyway), despite the circumstances, one of the first ways to start the healing process is by confessing your wrongs and then asking for forgiveness. Uh-oh! I probably just hit a nerve!
What?! Ask for forgiveness?! ME?! WHY!!?? For what?!
Because... so often we want to point the finger and blame others, assuming no responsibility, not realizing we ourselves are flawed. You don't have to follow my advice, the decision is purely yours. But if you are looking to improve your relationship or restore it in any way, shape, or form, this is a mandatory step, regardless of how hard it may be (or how bad you don't want to do it).
So, again, start off by asking your SPOUSE and GOD for forgiveness. FYI - you have to actually mean it. God can tell if your heart is pure or not, and there's no getting over on Him!
[An example: I'm sorry for condeming you in the past. I'm sorry for not supporting you. I'm sorry for making you feel how you feel towards me. Please forgive me. And I humbly ask God to please forgive me as well.]
Now, just to clear the air, I'm not a Bible thumper by any means. Right now, I read the Bible for ME - I want a closer relationship with God for myself and so that I can better be equipped to share the gospel with others. I believe the Bible is the absolute best success book ever written and so I turn to it for my own answers as well as knowledge.
In my heart, I firmly believe that God brings many couples together for reasons bigger than you or I could ever see, imagine, or understand. And I found, what I feel is, proof of it in scripture.
"My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts," says the Lord.
"And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine." Isaiah 55:8
The other day I brought my Bible with me to work because I wanted to look up some things I had read in my Dani Johnson book, Spirit Driven Success. But I was so busy thinking about my marriage, I decided to do a quick search on marriage Bible verses. I am confessing and believing that what I am going to share with you will not return void, but that instead you will hear and receive what I want to share with you.
"And some seed fell into good soil, and grew up and yielded a crop a hundred times [as great]. As He said these things, He called out, He who has ears, let him hear!" Luke 8:8
Commonly Discussed Bible Verses on Marriage
The main scripture references I found regarding marriage are in Corinthians and Matthew.
Real quick, let me just fill you in on some background, in case you aren't familiar with the chapter. Corinthians was written by the apostle Paul (who was one of Jesus' twelve disciples). Paul stopped in Corinth and started a church. Corinth was a city filled with sin and was much like the times we are in now. Paul reviews many things in Corinthians, but one of them that he teaches us about is God's laws for marriage.
1 Corinthians 7
Instruction on Marriage 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a]2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8 So I say to those who aren't married and to widows—it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9 But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust. 10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord.[b]A wife must not leave her husband. 11But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife. 12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man[c] has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy. 15(But if the husband or wife who isn't a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.) 16Don't you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don't you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you? 17Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
Matthew 19:4-9
4 "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
7 "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
So, long story short, according to this, if you and your spouse are "on the rocks" - the only "acceptable" reason (in God's eyes) that any married couple should depart from each other is if adultery is commited. That is the only "acceptable" split between a married man and woman. Death, adultery, and a spouse who is an unbeliever are the only reasons acceptable to leave, assuming I am understanding this correctly.
Bible Verses About Marriage, Lust, & Adultery
So where am I going with this? I want to go over lust & adultery with you real quick because that is something many people (Christians included) have a problem with and it can hinder your relationship. But it's something you should also know is not completely your fault. But, don't think you're getting off easy if you are a lustful or adulterous person.
Believe it or not, lust is usually one of two things (if not both):
- A sign that an evil spirit has entered and dwells within you
- It can be a generational curse. It can only be broken off of you or your generation if you
- confess it (to God, although he already knows, and the person you offended) or stand in proxy for curses you are aware or unaware of
- ask for forgiveness (from God, yourself, and the person you offended)
- break the chains off of you and your generations to come by asking God whole-heartedly for forgiveness (meaning you really have to want it, not just say it), and
- walk in faith in believing the curse is broken.
Evil spirits can live in ANY ONE - Christians included. That's right, I said it. Just because you are a Christian does not mean you don't have an evil spirit within you that needs to be cast out into the pit of hell, where it belongs.
There are also many generational curses in many families and because we do not know what all of them are, we MUST stand in proxy for them and ask for God to break them off of us and our families. What are some of your generational curses? (things that are "hereditary" or "run" in your family)
Amongst many, some of mine are not being submissive to man, alcoholism, and being a single parent. I don't have issues with alcoholism because of watching and fearing the crop it can yield - but it still is a threat that the enemy can use against me, if I so allow. Generational curses are usually seeds of the enemy - the devil - that he wants to use to destroy us and our families.
Now, for those of you experiencing this problem, here are some scriptures on adultery:
Matthew 5:27-30
27 "You have heard the commandment that says, 'You must not commit adultery.' 28 But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 So if your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your hand—even your stronger hand—causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
1 Corinthians 6:15-20
15Don't you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don't you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, "The two are united into one." 17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Hebrews 13:4
4 All of you should honor marriage. You should keep the marriage bed pure. God will judge the person who commits adultery. He will judge everyone who commits sexual sins.
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Applying Marriage Bible Verses
For those of you that still haven't come to grips with this reality - YOU & I BOTH have to answer to God for our sins on Judgement Day. He is the ONLY one who can and has the authority to Judge.
So... that leads us back to not pointing fingers - be careful who and under what circumstances you judge. Often times we get caught up in judging each other without even realizing it. And since we ourselves are judging another, we too are usually are being judged in the same way. Whether it's you and your spouse judging each other or someone else judging us (or our relationship).
Matthew 7:2
2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
What I am trying to say is this: If you truly love your spouse and so desire to remain in your marriage, one of the biggest justices you can do yourself and them is: don't judge them, regardless of their flaws or sins. And learn to express the unconditional love and forgiveness that God expresses to us.
God says (I can't find the scripture right now, but I'll update when I find it) something along the lines of "as far as the east is from the West, I remember your sins no more. If God can manage to forget sins that have been repented for, why do we have such a hard time doing it?
Once you've worked on forgiving yourself and your spouse for any wrongs you've done to each other, the next step in healing, improving, or restoring your relationship is to then work on improving yourself. Yes, you read that right, yourself. Not your spouse, but YOU.
Something
I began asking God for on a regualr basis was to help ME learn to
submit more to my husband. We live in a society now where women are
deemed equal to men and are very liberated. This can cause a huge
problem in a marriage as that's not the way God intended it to be. We,
as women need to understand, that in a marriage, one of the best ways
we can shower our man with love, honor, and respect is via submission. Learn more about showing your man some love.
The man is supposed to be the head, the ultimate decision maker (hard for some of us women to believe and accept, right?). Learn more about the biblical responsibilities of Christian men. But, women, don't worry. We have just as an important role, if not more important. We are the neck (we guide the movement of the head) and we are the fuel to the fire!! Unfortunately, sometimes, our lack of proper steering or words of praise can sometimes be the cause of turmoil in a marriage.
So, to sum it up, once you've gone through the process of forgiving, start working on yourself. Then, begin to pray with your spouse and together turn your marriage over to God.
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you're welcome, thank you for reading.
i dont know what to do anymore when me and my wife first got together we were ok then one nite i had friends that stayed over and i stayed home to watch my things well she got mad and said a old flame came over and they said there good byes i got mad and held it against her for months then she said it was a lie and that she did it out of revenge so its like wow first i dont trust her then she lies to me and let it go on for months then 2 weeks ago she said it was a li so i flipped she said they were just friends then i found out she had talked to him telling him we getting married and i was like cool ok i was like ok hes ur friend u had lied so i cnat be mad at him and now she says u dont trust me u di and i admit i dsid what man wouldnt after that and i found out she had been talking to him when she said she didnt and i was like wow another reason now she says i dont trust her and im supposed to shes my wife but man u cnat lie and expect to be trusted now tonight she says this to me
WHEN GOD COMES FOR THE WORLD AGAIN
IT SAYS
THE BEAST WILL RISE
WITH THE TWIN
BORN OF OCT
AND GOD
WILL STRIKE THEM
WITH FIRE
THE WORLD WILL END IN FIRE
LAST TIME HE DESTROYED IT WITH WATER
I READ THAT SHIT
REVALATION she says im the devil borne in october and stuff like that and im like ur lies made me this way not to trust u and then she says no i got u bak and there is more important thins that the pas and i was like why did u let me belive a lie for months to hurt me and now im supposed to be ok with it then u lied to me over and over again .........i dont know what to do im trying to save our marriege but its like she says im the only one who did wrong she never admits she did idk what to do if anyone can help me please do heres my cell 706 536 3033 im losing it and i almost died in feb got beat up and put in hospital and all and have alot or neuro logical issus now and i had to learn to walk and talk again and after being in iraq then that and now this id ont know how much more i can take and i lost a little girl last year and buried her i feel like the walls are closing in and i cant stop them and im trying so hard to make things better i am maybe i need church maybe i do but idk why i dont go idk y yes i was wrong for throwing it up all the time i was but i was mad hurt and she let it go for months then she says it all my fault im cursed and the devil ive never been baptized i havent idk what to do i dont if sumone can help me give me a ring please sorry for leaving this at ur door but i could use sum help and the army would so dig in this they would and cause more stress thats why im not going thru them i want sum real help from a real person who can help me ty all goodnite and gobless
belief713,
Very beautifully written with great quotes from the Bible. I am impressed and hope more people would read it. I am now off to be your fan.
@ spc wilburn - sorry to hear about your problems with you and your wife? Have either of you sought counceling or maybe a church? You both have to be willing, it won't work if only 1 party is trying, just my personal experience. If you feel as though you want to change, seek God for yourself. Pick up the Bible and read it and pray - God will speak to you and he will help to mend your brokenness.
Not sure why your wife said you were the devil, I'm a bit confused by your story. I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Stay strong, you're going through and have been through a lot. I personally want to thank you for risking your life for us all by spending time in Iraq. I still don't understand completely what we're there for, it's almost pointless to me, just my opinion.
I'm not sure if your wife feels as though she wants to work on your marriage or save it. You need to find that out and then take it from there...
@ einron - thanks for your encouraging words, they're much appreciated!
Very good piece. I don't know how many times I have had friends go on and on about their marriage problems and make it 150% the other one's fault. They cannot comprehend that they might play a small part in it. Humility is very important in a marriage and before God.
Amen!
I like what you have to say in your article. it's very insightful.
wonderful words..the only help we can run to is the Lord, he has helped me with my marriage and is still doing it..
What a wonderful hub, God Bless!
@RGraf - LOL, unfortunately, I myself have found myself pointing the finger as its sometimes easier. But then when you think about it as you grow in God, you begin to realize your wrongs...and yes humility is very important, although not fun :-) Thanks for your comment!
@ Haute Coco, Gloria Cowdery & twill4jc - thanks for dropping by and for your encouraging words!
@jesusmyjoy - I agree, although we do sometimes forget. But I'm glad to hear that your marriage is improving. Thanks also for your comment.
Great hub-lots of good info and scripture quotes here. I have been married nearly 17 years. It is a lot of work-but well worth it. Thanks.
LOL - it is a lot of work and I've only been married a few! Congrats on your almost 17 yrs! Any tips? ;-)
I received this email from a lady the other day and thought I would add it myself. I asked her to post it here, but I guess she didn't have a chance and I wanted to share it so here it is (interested in thoughts on this):
"To whom it may concern:
The information you presented with supportive Bible scripture is good. I would however like to just let you know that you are not alone in a misunderstanding of part of scripture. It's regarding Matt 19:9 and the "exception clause" to divorce. The term adultery or fornication used here is "pornia" which is something only single people do. Also, we must remember that these are Jewish customs which mean that the time a couple is betrothed or engaged is as if they are married. The time this is allowed is the day after the first night of marriage not 3 weeks, 5 months or 10 years. What happened was if the man felt as though he had been deceived by being told the woman was pure/a virgin and he found her not to be on the wedding night then and only then was he was able to give her that certificate of divorce.
We as Christians have not really researched this but just figure that God gave us an out and allowed Divorce. This simply isn't true we just don't realize it. This is clear when the Pharisees are questioning Jesus in asking about the exception clause. He just reminds them and us that God designed marriage to be the closest covenant to His covenant with us and that the two come together as one flesh, what God has joined together let no man seperate.
I don't say all of this to judge or riducule just to educate as God has helped me to research, study and share His truth about Marriage, divorce and remarriage.
Thank you for you time and God bless you and your marriage.
Heather "
Great hub thanks for sharing it with us. Marriage and the Bible verses you chose go together hand in hand.
Hello there!
The blog was good, kind of long but good...lol... Keep preaching!God Bless you.
Thanks for the research,
The scriptures about marriage are ok, however I concur with heather, the divorce certificate would only be given if a spouse was unfaithful after betrothal (modern day engagement) in the Jewish culture. Marrigae vows are not to be broken. In the book of Malachi God hates divorce even today he hates. You can't be in the will of God if you are doing what he hates. Marriage represents the relationship Christ has with the Church and he never divorces us even when we make mistakes but restores us. We should emphasize forgiveness because Jesus himself commanded us to forgive as our heavenly father forgives us.
This is not to condemn divorced Christians, they are still Children of God and he loves them but have to pray that the Holy Spirit Clearly guides them especially those that are considering remarrying to ensure they are in God's will.
On the Issue of evil spirit being in a Born again Christian, I disagree with you, we are sealed by the Holy Spirit and Greater is he that is in us than he that is in the world (i.e. the devil and his evil spirits/demons). No where in the scripture do we see christians being possesed by evil spirits. True we can be attacked by them but not them staying in us, we are the temple of the Holy Spirit not evil spirits.
About generational curses, this will continue to be a source of disagreement to many Christians. I personally believe that Generational curses can not affect a born again Christian, we are delivered at salvation. God himself promised in the book of Jeremiah that he will never blame the children for the sins of their parents or vice versa, everyone is responsible for their own sin. And we know that God does not lie, so let's rightly divide the word. Because of Jesus, no more generational curses for his genuine believers. Yes they are talked about in exodus but no where in the new testament do generational curses appear. We are in the new convenant by Grace through Faith not under the law and no one could fulfil the law. Jesus is the fulfilment of the Law and what the prophets taught.
May the Holy Spirit help us to rightly divide his word according to the context in which they are given and not in a piecemeal fashion of handpicking one verse.
Thank U
Thanks thecatholicexpert and cely for your comments.
Esther - Thank you for your comment. I purposely didn't talk much about divorce and more about forgiveness in this article because I am gray on the subject of divorce. I actually agree with what you are saying about divorce and that we should try to work things out and forgive, but I do believe there are circumstances in which divorce is ok. I agree with you that God does not divorce us and forgives us, but we also can't expect to play God's role.He is the only one who can redeem - all we can do is be patient and wait on Him, but depending on the circumstances of some, that may not always be the case. However, many times I think one of the main things that sways the ability and willingness to wait is PRIDE, which is of the devil and an evil spirit.
I do disagree with you in that I know Christians can indeed be "with" evil spirits and I have personally experienced Christian deliverances. So are you saying that if a person accepts Jesus in their life but is then delivered from an (or several) evil spirits they were never really a Chrisitan or never really saved? I'm not saying Christians are necessarily possessed, but they evil spirits can dwell in you until you are delivered from them either by self or by another. An evil spirit CAN indwell the same body at the same time as the Holy Spirit. Demonic spirits are confined to the body and soul of a believer even after they are saved. These demons can afflict the mind, will, and emotions of a believer, but NOT the spirit. Paul shows us that man is a 3-fold being in 1 Thess 5:23. In this case, the aim of deliverance is to remove the evil spirits - God says to work out your own deliverance from the molestation of enemies until you have freed both BODY and SOUL.
I also know and believe generational curses can be carried on UNTIL you break them off yourself and your family. No one can convince me otherwise as I've seen it in my life and the lives of others around me until they have been bound up and broken off.
I think you may misunderstand salvation - we are not delivered at salvation. Prior to salvation a man is dead spiritually - see Eph 2:1. Then in John 5:11-12 we see that the Divine Spirit indwells the human spirit at the time of salvation but it does not mean we are delivered from these evil spirits. If that was the case, how or why is it that some Christians still do "bad" things or backslide or similar. They wanted salvation, wanted to be pure and right, yet are struggling internally - spiritually, emotionally, mentally with impure thoughts, etc. I'm not saying all, but many. This is why many Christians get frustrated - they are taught from most pulpits that salvation is like a "cure-all" but it's not. There's more work that needs to be done to remove the impurities and strengthen the spirit. Look at Joyce Meyer's book - Battlefield of the Mind. She also mentions many scriptures in which evil spirits attack the mind - the battlefield of the believer. Until your spirit is strengthened and you learn how to discern and obey spirit vs. emotion or mind you are most likely going to follow your emotion or mind. There's many others like Paula White, Dani Johnson, and many more who agree with this and of course scriptures to back this up.
I do agree with you on this: May the Holy Spirit help us to rightly divide his word according to the context in which they are given and not in a piecemeal fashion of handpicking one verse.
Hello. I'm a believer. My husband is a believer also. We have been married for 6 years. We have one beautiful lil girl. Since the time after we got married. He had been unfaithful. I forgave him. And we went on with life as if it never happened. I used to bug him about it and told him my feelings about it. But it would end up into a huge argument. So I've learned to not say anything at all. I have always been faithful and honest with him from day one.
Then one of his friends had kissed me.. I was shocked, scared and I told my husband about it right away. He was furious! He ended up leaving that very same day. He ended up with another woman. I left back home. Hurt and lost. We haven't talked for one whole year!! He ended up having a child with this woman. I cried everynight, cried out to god, god knew the intension of my heart and knew I wanted my husband back. Despite all the wrongs he's done to me. I love him as much as I loved him from the beginning.
I have my husband back in my life and I thank god to this day forblessing me. I am a strong believer in my marriage and in doing all that I can for it to work. The only part I struggle with is knowing he has a kid. I accept his child, but it's hard for me. I wasn't prepared foe something like this. I don't know what to do or how I should be in regards to the other child. Please help me??? I really need to hear something.... Thanks for listening:)
Hi Sweetness,
Wow. I'm sorry to hear your story, even though you all are back together and trying to work things out. I've recently been looking things up online and have been shocked to see how many women have gone through similar situations! It's so painful, yet it does show us that God is a restorer - and He never did promise it would be easy. He does want us to turn to Him and many times endure and does know our pain.
Email me and I will send you links to some resources I have recently found. http://hubpages.com/email/user/belief713
Make sure you check out the link I have in this Hub to pray with your Spouse, as well as the Pure Life Ministries website. Stay strong!
I loved reading this hub, thank you.
My husband and I have been married for over 19 years, and we often tell each other that it seems like 7 years. We have so much fun together. Many people have told us that it is hard being married. While it sometimes takes work and tongue-biting, it has never been hard for us. Sure, we have had some minor issues, but nothing we couldn't work through. When we "met" God 13 years ago, we grew even closer.
Last year my husband was diagnosed with cancer and I almost lost him a couple of times. Thank goodness for God...he helped us work through this very tough year and re-opened our eyes towards each other. He is now in remission, and getting better every day.
Great subject, Thanks
Really enjoyed your hub and was equally interested in the comments after. The evil spirits in a Christian is something I never thought about but I suppose that could explain the back sliding, etc. I do believe satan has his demons all around us and if we are not consistentl on guard with the Holy Spirit he can and will attack us.
As far as Salvation, I personally do not believe in once saved always saved. To be saved we must walk with God everday and strive to be like him always. God Bless you for your words and how you put them together with Gods words. Discernment of words can only be achieved by verifying through God.
thanks for the scriptural reseach. it has helped me alot and i disire never to point finger or jugde but to reman good not only to my spouse but to others. God bless
very well thought out and written article. great writing style. A+++
Awesome hub! Thank you so much for putting the time and effort into this.
I'm in a situation myself right now. My husband left nearly 2 years ago and I'm praying and standing for God to restore our marriage. Through God's grace I now love him unconditionally as I should have the 6 1/2 years we were together, and I hold no grudges against him. I eagerly await the day our Lord delivers him back home to me and our young son.
sweetness... Thank you for sharing your story. You are an inspiration to me. My husband has said things that lead me to think there may be a non-covenant child on the way, but I have not let that sway my determination to fight for our marriage. I believe I can accept a child as well, and love it as if it were my own. God bless you!
I would like to say marriage is what you make of it,many people are ready to give up far to often and far to quick.If you tuust Gpd and beleive in his word you can have a successful marriage.Communication is one if not the most important aspects of a marriage,when you learn to communicate with your spouse their is nothing you will not be able to tlk about.I have been married for almost five years and it has been the ruffiest five years of my life,but with God on my side and me really learning how to trust God,we would not have made it.I had to really start living what i said i believed in,thats key to a successful marriage live what you say u believe,because people are looking at the outside not the inside!be encourage!
Excellent. Nothing more needs to be said.
I am having money problems in my marriage right now.
I say things I don't mean, and with the stress from the kids it's all very stressful. I feel bad for saying" I don't know how long I can take this", or telling my wife how I wished I joined the army. I even make the kids feel like a burden and my marriage. It hurts both the wife and the kids..........I feel very awful for those moments.........
Once I understood that marriage takes 3 (husband, wife, Jesus), it made marriage that much better.
Hello Belief713,
I am in agreement with you on all of what you wrote. Excellent hub I may say. You've really done your homework. There is just one thing that needed correcting.
Your quote: "Corinthians was written by the apostle Paul (who was one of Jesus' twelve disciples)."
Paul was never a disciple. In fact he wasn't even in the same circle with Jesus. Jesus had already ascended into heaven when Paul came on the scene. Paul was also part Jew and Roman. Mostly a Jew serving in the Roman Government. His job was the slew anyone who preached Jesus Christ. He was on the Road to Demascas when he received salvation. Jesus appeared to him as light and gave Paul his mandate. He then went blind. Annanias laid hands on Paul and his sight was recovered. Barnabas baptised him with the holy spirit. Remember, the Holy Spirit came in the Upper Room where Peter preached the sermon in Acts.
Peter didn't even want Paul included because there was no trust. Paul was notorious for crucifying and stoning Christians. When Paul was brought into the Temple amongst the Christians, they were ready to kill him until he told his testimony and Barnabas spoke on his behalf...
But all this came years after the ascension of Christ and Christ was Paul's teacher.
Thanks Belief713
However, I have seen a new trend in which christains are now believing that it is biblical to divorce.
I am concern about the number of christain leaders who are divorcing. Where did they get that new revelation from??? Where in the bible.
in the case of the believer and non believer i believe the strongest rule there, is we are called to peace and sometimes the best way to have peace is to leave the situation altogether. If two warring countries are continually lobbing bombs over the border at each other and they get moved very far away from the border all of a sudden there is peace in the area. At some point we have to use spiritual common sense and remove ourselves from the area of contention, for two reasons: one is peace and the second is to worship god freely as he would have his children do. So often i see the believer compromising his/her standard, missing meetings, special events, fellowship with believers, reading the word and watching unedifying movies, because he/she is nagging or being hard to deal with, complaining about being alone, etc. I really think "come out and be separate" is a good idea. This also may give the other member time to truly reflect and reassess the others faith in god.
But if they be PLEASED, he doesn't mind or she doesn't mind and the other is supporting and everything is okay, then dwell together absolutely. The sin is not in divorce or marital separation but in the re-marrying.
Thank you for this hub Belief713. It started some good comments, but it all comes back to the Word. I have been married 3 months and being in the Word before we were married has given us the "armour" we need to have a marriage that will glorify our Lord, Jesus Christ. Thank you again.
Thank you for this hub, I've been doing alot of soul searching and more and more it has brought me back to my faith. Not concerned with trival things anymore, I just want to be a good wife and positive role model to my children. I have a lot of work left to do but I am confident if I continue on the same path that the Lord will help me get to where I want to be.
Faith is the basis of society, of each person. A God blessed marriage is the best thing in life.
I am very greatful for yr teaching it helped me a lot, and I would like to receive e-mails from you and to purchase couple of books .
I am a recent widow suffering from depression at the lost of my husband of 56 years. The therapist I see says that our marriage no longer exists, since death did us part. Comments please.
Dear lady, my heartfelt condolence to you.I'm so sorry for your loss. Being a beliver in Christ I've always gone to Him for therapy.There can be no better therapist in this world than our own Lord.Read His words in the Bible.Pray to Him when you feel depressed.Get down on your knees and pray to Him to take away your sadness, grief and sense of emptiness.He loves you and when you go to Him He will comfort you .
"Evil spirits can live in ANY ONE - Christians included. That's right, I said it. Just because you are a Christian does not mean you don't have an evil spirit within you that needs to be cast out into the pit of hell, where it belongs."-BELIEF173
This statement makes no sense, If you are a Christian, you cant have darkness and light in you. You either walk in the light or walk in the darkness. (1 John 1:5-7). Evil spirits cannot dwell in ones body if one is a christian. For we cannot have light and darkness in us. It makes no sense. You are contradicting the bible and have no ground to stand on what you say. It is only assumptions. Christ disarmed the spirits at the cross (Col 2:15). If you say a evil spirit can "live in any one" then you stand christianity on its head. As christians we have the Holy Spirit (Rom 8:9), therefore Light and darkness cannot dwell in the same place. We either have the Holy Spirit or we don't, we either are a Christian or we are not. If you say... "Evil spirits can live in ANY ONE - Christians included" then that person is not a christian.
I am at a point in my marriage where i do not know what do do. we have always had problems in our relationship even before marriage and now its just getting worse. my husband has just recently decided to trust in God but confess all his sins to me and ask for forgiveness. i can forgive but it is so hard to forget. i want to feel the way my husband feels and have faith but for some reason its hard. i spent the past hour reading verses and they hit home and make me feel empowered and want to change but the next day im back doing the same things. i want to be a better wife for my husband and live my life the way God intented. I too want to confess my sins to my husband and ask for forgiveness but I am afraid. I feel like I am so far gone i can not be saved. I know our God is a loving and forgiving God but am I worth forgiving. Do I deserve to be married? I do not think i am a good person at all. I have taken life for granted and all the people God has blessed my life with. I no longer want to live my life this way. Im scared to pray...why??? I can read the bible but its hard for me to pray....
Wow! Paul was NOT one of jesus's twelve disciples...he wasn't even converted until after jesus' death (more specifically after stephen's death while Paul was on his way to Damascus)
I've been married for 18 yrs my husband and I both consider ourselves believers, but he has accused me of being unfaithful for yrs and its not true. I've recently started seeing a therapist and feel pathetic & emotionally whipped. He's told me he has no respect for me. I love him but I am getting physically sick. Can I divorce him? If I don't I believe he'll end up killing me
I've been married for 18 yrs my husband and I both consider ourselves believers, but he has accused me of being unfaithful for yrs and its not true. I've recently started seeing a therapist and feel pathetic & emotionally whipped. He's told me he has no respect for me. I love him but I am getting physically sick. Can I divorce him? If I don't I believe he'll end up killing me. The other problem is that I still love him, but I know he will not change.
I congratulate you on your efforts in examining the natureof true,biblical marriage and your desire to help marriedcouples yet you fail to comment on the difficulties thatspecifically occur when a believer is married to a on believer.This occurs more often than not when one marriedpartner finds God without the other one being so inclined.On some occasions both think of themselves as Christians yet only one wishes to search for the deeper hidden things of God.The result is much is understandingand often ill feeling when both parties are neither in the right or the wrong.The concept of self rears its ugly head and feelings arise.
You have written good advice on your web site about the
need for repentance and the need to forgive but I must
correct one of your statements.This is important:-
We are not responsible for the feelings of others.No matter how we may act towards another we do not summon up
their feelings.We are responsible only for our own feelings.Feelngs are spontaneous and arise out of our own
sense of self.They are in our own control,if we choose to
control them.Show me from the gospels a single example
when Jesus blamed another for his own feelings.Similarly
from the entire bible show me a single example.Keep your
advice scriptural.Your teaching is tainted by your own
lack of understanding.Many are victims to their feelings
and are for ever looking to others to protect their feelings.They are locked in a sentimentalist,sensitive
world of their own where their feelings rule.We all suffer from this to some degree or another.Feelings come
entirely from self and are summoned only by self.
Jesus Christ made it plain enough when he said "Deny your
self" " I am the way " " follow me ".Locked in our feelings,serving our feelings will never lead us to God and our marriages will always be problematic.
If we concentrate our priority on our feelings then we will never find our potential to truly love others.We must overcome our self serving feelings.The only way to
do this is to deny self.
If this sounds too deep or heavy for you then all I can
say is,Welcome to true Christianity.Do not take my word for it.Rely on no mans word.Check it out with Scripture.
Gods knowledge and understanding of the human condition is readily available to all who seek it.It is this deeper
understanding that will lead you to your salvation.
Peace in Christ
Derek.
Hi,
I am a believer and recently i am going through a very hard life experience with my husband. We got married at a very young age,19 and now 24, we have been married for 5 years. I have been unfaithful and he has forgiven me but he will still bring it up then recently 2 months ago me and him decided to seperate which i realized right away i missed him and how much i really love him. When i asked to try to work it out he told me he wasnt in love with me and that he was confused and needed time. Well a week ago i found out that he has another girlfriend, which really broke my heart and i began to fall into depression and cry everyday and night. I am still hurt but is trying each day to forgive him and pray that God can help us. Now he says that hes very confused and misses me but does not know what to do. I still love him. But i have faith and pray to God to forgive us, restore our love, and help us to fix this because he knows what is best for us.
-Thank you for this research.
I would like to say sorry to the guy on the 1st comment, I hope that you are okay now.. I could have called you but I don't know the international code of your number b/c am in South Africa.
To Mo; please try to pray even thou it's hard to, remember prayer is a Christians' vital breathe his native air.. without prayer you cannot survive. Try to forgive him, it is hard sometimes but for your own peace of mind please do.
Believer be strong, continue to pray & ask for forgiveness & that of your husband.
I am not yet married, the word marriage just scares me; I know in God am a victor & I am not to be afraid. Years back I prayed that in This year I must get married, I thought I'll be okay with it / want to be with someone now there has been men who wants wants to talk to me about marriage but I have been avoiiding them. Threre two particularly that I like in them.. There is this one I spoke with; I know that he loves me & he has the best interest at heart for the marriage he wants with me but am afraid.He wants us to court first & I do not believe in it & I have never dated, am now 24 years.
Today I decided to search about marriage & it has scared me even more, to see a lot of people not being happy. I know it will not be roses everyday / maybe there is no a perfect guy / woman.
My parents were married & it never really worked out, they fought almost everyday & even over us when they separated. I have prayed about it & that it must not happen to me / either of my sibling. Am positive it wont, my God will not give me someone who will make me cry out of pain / I bring him grief. Am just scared of saying the first word "YES". I am still praying about this matter. because at this age I convince myself that am not ready to be with someone as my husband, then I never will. One other thing is, I give up easily when things do not go my way am scared that once things turn sour I'll run away. I have never given up on things I like incliding my God. Please pray with me Saints that am maybe freed from this fear b/c its not normal;
Thanks; Multifold Blessings!!!!!!!
Just wanted to say what good work you are doing in helping
people save their marriages and relationships and overcome infidelity.
Keep it up:))
FYI: Paul is not one of the twelve disciples of Jesus. In the earliest days of Christianity Paul was a Jewish Pharisee who mercilessly persecuted Christians, but then was transformed by God to be an apostle for Jesus.
Hi. may you please advertised the marriedge verse to my website please,
I cant just figure out whats going on, one day its fine the rest of the week its series of a struggling relationship, i think my spouse is bipolar but refuses to get help, he is getting worst. he ignores me lets say in a week day at least 5 days out of 7 days. it burns me up i have prayed to God to give me a peace of mind but how much can one take. ithinking that i am being punished for him to just stay and treat me that way.
i used to wish that he will just leave and call me to say that he will not come back but that will be even too easy and probably better but the chances of it is very slim. Please God HELP ME, get fight this mental MARITAL BATTLE, i dont think counseling will help,cos he wont show up. he aviods those kind of conversations.
i dont remember the last time, i mentioned a problem and we addressed it together.
REALLY INSPIRED ME.. THANK YOU MUCH!!!
thank you for this. God bless you....
I have been married for going on 18 years this coming November. Our marriage hasn't been perfect, we have had our ups and downs but I never thought things would come to what they have. Right before Christmas I found out that my husband had been having affair with a woman he works with~even though she lives in another state. It supposedly started as just a friendship, somewhere for them to talk about their problems but turned into more. I am a believer and my husband is/was too but he has really turned away from God. Through all of this I have felt God telling me to forgive him and love him unconditionally and that is what I have tried to do. Through the process of taking this to God, he has revealed to me that I had not respected my husband in the way that God desires. I have asked for forgiveness from both my husband and God and am really working on trying to make changes to show my husband how much I do love and respect him. Cutting off the relationship was hard for my husband and I know he still desires to communicate with her. I can understand as I found out they were talking over an hour each day (in numerous small increments). They did have a physical relationship although I don't think it happened that many times (5-6 times?) The issue that I am having is that my husband says he still loves me but can't say that he is 100% committed to trying to make our marriage work. The hardest part for me is that I try to be emotionally and physically intimate with him but he says he just feels guilty because he hasn't been able to show me that same intimacy. When I ask him why he can't, he has no answer. I told him it is hard for me to understand how he can love me but not show it in any kind of a physical manner. What can I do to help regain that intimacy with him? We had another argument/talk about that this morning and just an hour ago he sent me a text saying he would like to discuss his moving out of the bedroom/house. I don't know what can be accomplished by this. We have communicated more over the last 4 months than we have over the last several years of our marriage and that would be gone if he moved out. We also spend time together in the morning before he goes to work reading a devotional together which I know wouldn't be done if he left. He also has been going to church with me again(hasn't for the past 1 1/2 years) and I don't think that would continue either. What should I do? Should I just let him go? I love him so much and I don't believe in divorce. Should I stop doing things for him (some physical, some not), stop trying to show him my love? I just don't know what to do and would welcome and advise or suggestions. I pray every day that God would break my husband to the point that he would finally surrender to God, I don't know that he has ever fully done that. He likes to be in control and that control is a very hard thing for him to give up. I believe that marriage is sacred to God and that he does desire that my marriage be restored, I am just having a hard time know what to do and waiting for God's miracle to happen.
Just want to complete some thoughts to marriage; since I've been married for 30 years, and married my husband when I was only 19, when our daughter was already a year old.
I'm in Canada and was totally upset when the Liberal party suddenly accepted same sex couples a union called marriage. (If a country, state or court wants to call a same sex union another name, to give its people same rights to partners to receive insurance or pensions, then fine call it another name, but don't try and force its rights to the word Marriage, which is ONLY a union by ONE MAN and ONE WOMAN blessed by God!)
To understand the Spiritual we need to look at Physical examples, which Jesus always did through his parables.
The biggest mistake the churches make is not teaching the beginning correctly. (Just as when the churches said to all people the world was flat) Adam was in the beginning like a flower, with male and female spiritual entities as one. Adam was NOT ONE ADAM, but was as a body of ATOMS created from the dust. Then when God caused the body of ATOMS/ADAMS to sleep, he seperated the male and female spiritual entities into two, so that when they would become one through a physical marriage, it would be as one in the spiritual marriage sense.
(Thus I see the beginning as many ADAMs and EVEs, who are given to one another. NEVER WAS ADAM & ADAM to be together as one, even though they were first created as one body together from the dust. When you look at the bible correctly, it becomes understandable why Cain was labeled by God, so that no other atom/adam would kill him for killing his brother, and how Cain could have found an already established land called Nod, in which he found his wife. CAIN DID NOT COME BACK TO HIS BIRTH LAND OF HIS PARENTS TO TAKE A SISTER LATER IN LIFE AS HIS WIFE, FOR HE WAS UPROOTED FROM IT BY GOD, PLUS THIS WOULD BE INCEST JUST AS IT WOULD BE TODAY.)
Of ALL the Adams and Eves; only one union has the seed of God in its generation; thus it is only this Adam and Eve which is important to write about for it highlights their generations, as it was their one generation which gives us life. It is sad how Christians and even bible scholars can't seem to see this truth. However hundred of years ago, the same ignorance figured every ship was going to sail off the flat surface of our earth too, and would have argued to their death they were right since that is what they believed the bible said.
So this is a few other things I have found to be true through my marriage with my husband. Where I have been mainly the believer and my husband to be mainly the black sheep wandering through lost pastures.
1. Get your eyes off the things of this world. For God's word says that true riches of this world will be those things you can't see, but will have wings to fly. So my husband's heart is more important to God then something I could take hold of on earth. When his heart take's flight and make's it to heaven I will have my reward for loving him, when it was at times nearly impossible to do so. Remember this life is only temporary, and what might seem to be a life time here, is only like a moment compare to eternity in the kingdom. Don't think of your own pleasures, and feel envious of what another wife or husband might have. Plus if you are always argueing with your partner, then shut your mouth, ask God for peace, and start winning over your partner with sweet honey, rather then sour explosive words. Everytime your partner comes at you with hateful bombs, or even swinging hands to hurt you, then rebuke those storms, and each time ask God to remove the darkness that came into the home, with his light. Remember words have power, as we are created in the image of our Loving God! (Consider this great example of how posted words on water bottles changed the appearance of water molecules inside, by just the word being placed on it.) So to throw back a brick word back for each brick word that has been thrown at you by your partner, is twice the amount of bricks between your relationship. Read God's uplifting promises each time bad words hit your belief in yourself. Saying I love you is important each day, and if you can't say it, then ask God to help your wounded pride, and your love, so you can say it !!! http://www.abundancetapestry.com/positive-affirmat
2. Don't look at your problems from the ground, like a chicken does when he pecks at his own food. (Or like the sea gull does in Jonathan Living SeaGull, mine, mine, mine.) Rather rise up and soar like an eagle, and then look down at your problem from on high. Now your problem amoung all the earth's problems only appear to be small tiny bumps to get over, instead of the hugh mountain Satan wants you to believe is impossible to climb.
3. Remember all things in the physcial points to things in the spiritual. So just as this earth has been given the gift of light from total darkness; we beings which are created from its dust, is also given the light to our dark hearts too. Which is why each morning is anewable light to our evening of darkness! Just as everything on earth needs constant cleaning over and over again, remember this is a clue to your inner dust also. So as you are showering, bathing, brushing your teeth, or washing your dishes, bring your heart daily before the Lord at the same time, and ask God's Spirit of light, to shine within the corners of your heart, so His rays of lights can clean out any darkness you might have let in, while you watched a TV show, or shared in gossip at work or church. Remember we are in this earth right now, but we aren't to be part of its activities, which is very hard to accomplish by a new baby of the Lord, but just as salmon have to jump against the flowing current to get up stream, so must we Christians. So Yes born again hearts, can allow darkness back into its folds the very next day, along with its enemy; sometimes even more demons will want to enter, because an open door to a clean home is more inviting, then an open door to a filthy hoarded home, isn't it?
So your Christian marriage is a physcial example to the world of what a Christian marriage is in the spirit, is it any wonder why the enemy wants all Christian marriages to break apart, so onward Christian soldier, and pray, pray, pray for all of us as a body, and remember to stay sober as the enemy is looking for the weak to devour. God bless
Thank you for post, read this with the woman who I beleve God brought into my life to not only be a help mate but also my neck :)
Just for the record, Paul was not one of the 12 apostles. He was a righteous Jew who persecuted the early Christians until God spoke to him on the road to Damascus. God stuck him blind and then gave him his sight back and Saul/Paul became a believer in Christ. After that he was a tireless missionary and established many churches.
my father died last year and its very painful to me and to my mom the elders says my father and his elder brother who also died many years ago are the payments for my grandfather did to his wife..my grandfather has a mistress and has 3 children to her.now im so afraid because my husband having an affair what f he had a child to that woman?? could it be my child will pay for his father sins?
I just wanted to point out that Paul was NOT one of Jesus' disciples. In fact, he persecuted Christians and was a part of the death of many martyrs beginning with the stoning of Stephen. He never even met Jesus during Jesus' time on earth but was instead met with the presence of the Lord on the road to Damascus. It is a fascinating story and one I highly recommend reading (the first few chapters of Acts contain the whole of it.)
Marriage is very important and all Christians need to know and understand what God wants us to do when we become one with our mate. Love God with all your heart and Love your wife with everything and wifes respect, honor and submit yourself to your husband that is the Christian way. free bible and other Christian elements that help you move closer to God http://www.christianlivingbible.com
i have been married for 11 1/2 years to my second husband. he has been staying with family. i had three children when we married and he has never treated the oldest 2 the same as the youngest and our two together. he told our oldest to leave a year ago and now has done it to my 18 year old. i called him on it and he justifies himself by saying my son is lazy. i can not handle him running off another child!! i love him but right or wrong not more than my children. not sure what to do!! wonderful info.. i plan on using it!!!! THX!!!
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Thank you. The verses included here are very helpful.